As I have touched on before many of my inspirations for informative posts come from the communities I am involved with on facebook, I often save comments and replies I make to then form them into posts for here, at the moment I have quite a backlog of them.
This issue was originally raised by a TERF who was putting down a trans* person who did not plan to medically transition, they also likened it to mental illness and compared it to their own battles with anorexia. To me this discussion raised many important points on what others think of trans* people who do not feel a need too or do not want to medically transition, in short take hormones and get gender reassignment surgery. And some of the mental illness stigma about trans* people.
So many busy exciting things have been going on!
Jay has been changing their educational path and dealing with life stuff, like everyone really! (Hopefully they will find time for a post soon)
I am now a qualified beautician and I’m preparing for some more university time, and I have finished a “Psychiatric Assessment” regarding being trans* and it has come to the conclusion that I am eligible for medical transition and a few other things that I might go into detail about later. This is just a short post before my next one (that should be written today) about socially but not medically transitioning trans* (mostly Enby) people, and the validity of their identity as trans* people.
Take a line from a song that you love or connect with. Now forget the song, and turn that line into the title or inspiration for your post.
And he said: “Son, this world is rough
And if a man’s gonna make it, he’s gotta be tough
And I knew I wouldn’t be there to help ya along.
So I give ya that name and I said goodbye
I knew you’d have to get tough or die
And it’s the name that helped to make you strong.”
He said: “Now you just fought one hell of a fight
And I know you hate me, and you got the right
To kill me now, and I wouldn’t blame you if you do.
But ya ought to thank me, before I die,
For the gravel in ya guts and the spit in ya eye
Cause I’m the son-of-a-bitch that named you “Sue.'”
–A boy named Sue, Johnny Cash
I have maintained for a long time that this is the relationship most trans* peeps have with who ever they believe made them trans*, god, goddess or nature. Because most trans* people who live (almost half of all trans* people have attempted suicide) are pretty tough. On one hand it seems like trans* people are the little fish dropped into a big pond of bigger “normal” fish, and thats a hard and often cruel life to lead, with many of us getting swallowed up by mental illness and violence from loved ones and strangers. I would even tentatively argue that many trans* suicides are not irrational, because with the darkness in their lives being constantly cheerful would concern me more. (happily not all trans* people are in superbad/dark conditions these days) That said, if you have suicidal thoughts, try writing a post here, calling here (au) or the relevant number here. I can’t promise on behalf of the universe that it gets better, but you are cared about (even if its just your hairdresser or the guy at your lunch spot who sees you most days and doesn’t know if saying hi is a bit too personal) and you are not alone.
On the other hand if you make it through, like Sue, your gonna be tough. Trans* people are tough, and I have learnt to take happiness in the little things, like a person who did airbrushed flowers on my face, posted a pic on facebook and wrote “he’s gonna kill me” even though they know my gender assigned at birth. And maybe we each get our chance with our creator and I hope that if that day happens for me, I will be composed enough for it to not be how Sue treated his dad… but no promises.
This week our posts are going to be quite minimalistic, we are going to post a video (maybe more) each, that talks about being trans*, being enby, being an ally. And to use this time to catch up on some posts.
The video I chose to link is by Yee Won Chong a Malaysian American whose Identity I summarize as trans*masculine non-binary, in this 10 minute video they summarize life as an american trans* person and tips for allies.
Last This weeks guest post is X, they are a university student with a talent for science and sculpture and have offered to write about being bigender.
WordPress has a feature called “inspire me” this feature makes a prompt for a post, So Jay thought that this week we could use that prompt and see if we could make it fit around a trans* issue, I got:
Italo Calvino said: The more enlightened our houses are, the more their walls ooze ghosts. Describe the ghosts that live in this house:
Image credit: “love Don’t live here anymore…” – © 2009 Robb North – made available under Attribution 2.0 Generic
Well meaning people often use the phrase “labels are for soup cans” to articulate that we (especially those under the ever growing LGBTIQA+ banner) should be able to just be ourselves without feeling the need to put a label on it. But in our world labels have a purpose.