Grey – A Toast

Here is to all the people who are slyly trying to call out their facebook friends on using the word tr*nny in their latest facebook post.

Who then doesn’t do that great.

And the comment thread diverges from holiday plans to why people are not allowed to use tr*nny to describe anyone, let alone a thai woman on the cover of a travel brochure.

And another drink to the lone defender who doesn’t use the word privilege once, when trying to explain that tr*nny is not their word to use.

Who continues to explain that just because there are lots of ladyboys in thailand doesn’t mean that everyone in thailand is one.

Who resists the urge to then say, maybe if you have these attitudes, thailand might not be the best place for you to holiday, how about bali?

Who keeps their calm when they start confusing bisexual people with trans* people. (I’m not sure how either)

And who then tries to quietly point out that just because angelina and brad are together that doesn’t mean angelina is not bi.

And this time avoids using the term “bierasure” because they know that this person’s cousin will get them confused with the synthpop duo erasure.

And they know that if that cousin mentions erasure again, they will have to tell them that Andy Bell is gay.

But even the next time that cousin brings up Erasure they don’t, because that is a weak, weak move.

Oh but they totally do the time after, cause really, who is a homophobic erasure fan who doesn’t know that Andy Bell is gay.

He even has HIV, it’s like being a Queen fan and not knowing anything about Freddie Mercury.

Urg, and here’s to that person, ’cause that was just last week.

Grey – That’s not who you are to me.

I was reading back through my last post and I thought there was a point in there that needed further explanation. This is a line stated by many people who have a friend or relative who is trans*, from the nastiest bigot to the really well meaning family member. This line is “That’s not who you are to me” (abv. in this article now as TNWYATM) and it can be one of the most damaging things to say to a trans* person and I am going to talk about why.

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Grey – Do you have to want medical transition to be Trans*?

As I have touched on before many of my inspirations for informative posts come from the communities I am involved with on facebook, I often save comments and replies I make to then form them into posts for here, at the moment I have quite a backlog of them.

This issue was originally raised by a TERF who was putting down a trans* person who did not plan to medically transition, they also likened it to mental illness and compared it to their own battles with anorexia. To me this discussion raised many important points on what others think of trans* people who do not feel a need too or do not want to medically transition, in short take hormones and get gender reassignment surgery. And some of the mental illness stigma about trans* people.

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Grey – Sorry for the Silence

So many busy exciting things have been going on!
Jay has been changing their educational path and dealing with life stuff, like everyone really! (Hopefully they will find time for a post soon)
I am now a qualified beautician and I’m preparing for some more university time, and I have finished a “Psychiatric Assessment” regarding being trans* and it has come to the conclusion that I am eligible for medical transition and a few other things that I might go into detail about later. This is just a short post before my next one (that should be written today) about socially but not medically transitioning trans* (mostly Enby) people, and the validity of their identity as trans* people.